I’ve met a man four years ago. We dated on and off since then but nothing too serious. Then, he wanted to be in a relationship with me, wanted to go to Montreal to meet my family, etc. However, in less than a month, he changed his mind a couple of times, telling me first that he needs to experience more in the dating field (he was married for 30 years). So I offered him an “open relationship”, meaning that we are together, but allowed to see other people. Until I saw his new online dating profile where he clearly stated that he was looking for a serious relationship. BAM. He was out of my game.
There’s a BIG difference in between being in an open relationship and being polyamorous. An open relationship is a relationship where the parties are free to meet other dates (but nothing serious), while Polyamory means having multiple romantic relationships at the same time, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved.
Men and women are dating for many different reasons. Some of them are dating just for the thrill, meeting new friends or going out of their routine and their comfort zone. Some other are very serious about meeting someone significant in their life while others simply want a booty call.
Before entering in this wonderful world, you need to know what you want. But you can change your mind. After my divorce, I just wanted to meet new people and see how it can evolve. At this time, I was mainly meeting men wanting to commit. I wasn’t ready for that.
Then, my needs changed and I didn’t want to have multiple dates and started to look for a more meaningful relationship. And I started to meet with men who didn’t want any kind of commitment. At the wrong place at the wrong time? Go figure!